All Things Connected and Related

Each individual action and reaction is connected to your moods, attitudes, and behavior. Is your attitude affected positively when someone makes an effort to be either nice or helpful or both toward you? You may not feel it directly, but your mood and behavior is affected by others constantly.
Likewise, when someone is rude or mean to you, your attitude and behavior is affected negatively or even defensively. You either get into a bad mood or try to get even. Either be lived in the feel good frame of mind? Just think then how your words and actions toward other affect them. They do.

In his book How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less, author Nicholas Boothman discusses two very important concepts that fall in line with inter connectedness. One, in dealing with others, you can have a really useful attitude and be kind, polite, and helpful, or you can have a really useless attitude and be rude, abrupt, and self-centered. Which one will have the more favorable outcome for you in most cases? Again, actions, attitudes, and outcomes are connected and related.

The second important concept that I want to share from Boothman, is the KFC method. Simply stated, know what you want, find out what you are getting, and change what you do until you get what you want. Your actions directly affect what happens to you and how people perceive you. If you know that you want to have friends and be liked, then find out what your friendship status looks like, and change what you do until achieving the desired status.

Your words, discussion, and interactions with other people are not isolated incidents that have no further affect on you or others. Instead, your every action and inaction helps to determine what your future will look like. Your now is connected and related to your future and your now is connected to your past.

Good works, kind words, and acts of service are investments in your better future. Arguments, getting even, and self centeredness are investments in a more troubled future. All of what you do and say is connected and related and it is wise to carefully choose your words and actions.

As Boothman claims, if you know what you want, then do the things that you need to do to get there. Make the daily and continuous investments to get to where you want to be. It may sound like an over-used cliché but the longest journey does start with the first step.